We should be OK for a while, having some time to figure out, step by step, where to go from here. Why he left and how we got to this point is a whole other blog post (or perhaps a whole other blog), but it looks like there are some interesting possibilities out there and, though it might require some sacrifice in the mean time, we're both feeling pretty optimistic.
The only truly unsettling part to me was how people might react to this change--we'd gotten so used to our lives being so intertwined in so many ways with so many of the people we know, that we both knew that this wasn't just your normal leaving-a-job-situation in a lot of ways. But once again, our friends have proved that they are worth their weight in gold. They've reached out and showed nothing but understanding, support and optimism for our future. It is a real blessing in life to know that there are lots of people who love you for you, in spite of whatever flaws you may have, and who want always for you and your family to be happy and successful. I have felt no loneliness or judgment in this change, and for that I am extremely grateful.
So wish us luck. It looks like Doug may get his master's degree finally completed (and it will be nice to have the paper in hand, since he spent a lot of time and money on that education), and will be able to do so in a simpler and cheaper manner than we had expected. There are lots of logistics to be figured out, and new employment to find, but I'm feeling good. I'm the type that would be inclined to panic at times like this, and I haven't. I feel at peace. Nothing has really gone according to plan since we got married, and yet things have worked out pretty well to this point. I've gotten much better at just accepting living life one step at a time, not knowing for sure where we're headed. I'm excited to see what comes next.